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Oral talents are the most important! Sucking is also the area where most guys (or girls) seem to be lacking skills. Giving a blowjob has NOTHING to do with blowing. Rather the exact opposite. You should suck on it, and suck on it hard. Just as you would suck a lollipop, straw in a soda, or a cigarette for those who smoke. Many boys that are just starting out – seem to be under the impression that all you have to do is just go up and down on it with your mouth. WRONG! There is a lot more to it!

The goal of a good blowjob is to find the most sensitive areas on your partner’s cock and then to stimulate them with your mouth, tongue, and lips as much as you can. Forming a tight seal around your partner’s cock is the key. There is one problem that’s the most common in bad blowjobs. TEETH! Having a guy’s teeth scrape on your cock as they’re sucking you, is not only unpleasant, but it also hurts. The best way to get around this is to open your mouth wider, or even better yet, is to slightly curl your lips over your teeth. Be careful, however, if you curl your lips over your teeth too far and you have really rough stubble from not shaving, then you still might cause your partner quite a bit of pain. The trick is to avoid rubbing, or scraping your partner’s cock with anything that might be unpleasant.

Commonly the most sensitive areas on a guy’s cock are the rim of the cock head, the tip, the top side of the cockhead, and at times the bottom side of the shaft. A good way to stimulate the rim of the cockhead is to form a tight ring around the cock with your lips, and to repeatedly let the rim of the cockhead force it’s way through that ring as you suck him. Another way is to repeatedly swirl your tongue around the rim. This method is also good for stimulating the tip of the cockhead. You can tease him with your tongue by flicking it across the tip as you suck him, you can even tease the slit at the top of his cock. Some guys, however, tend to be TOO sensitive there, so it may not be too pleasurable for them to have their slit played with. As always look for your partner’s feedback.

To stimulate the top side of the cockhead during a blowjob, swirl your tongue around it on each top stroke. Try occasionally turning your head clockwise and counterclockwise as you bob up and down while sucking him. To stimulate the bottom side of the shaft, extend your tongue inside your mouth as much as you can without breaking the tight seal, and then firmly press your tongue against the shaft as you bob up and down sucking him. Positions are also a key to giving a good blowjob. Naturally you want to get as much of his cock as you can inside your mouth.

If your partner’s cock curves upward towards his stomach, you may get a better response from him if you turn your body in such a way so that the curve of his cock matches the curve of your throat. Sort of like one half of a 69 position, where it seems like his cock could just slip down your throat with out a problem. If your partner’s cock curves downward towards his feet, then being between his legs, on your stomach, or on your knees will work really well for him. It will also make it easier and more enjoyable for you.

Another decision you want to make is, whether your partner should be standing, sitting, or laying down on his back. Different guys have different responses, and sometimes different degrees of erection depending on which position they’re in.
Another good position is for you to be on the bed flat on your back with your head tilted back. He should be standing above you by the edge of the bed sliding his cock in and out of your mouth.

You should also use your hands during a blowjob. Some guys have problems staying really erect during a blowjob. It helps in this case to grip his cock firmly with one hand, make a ring around it with your index finger and thumb and place your hand at the base of his cock squeezing the base of the shaft, this usually makes his cock a little harder. Some guys get harder if you use a couple of fingers to press against the hard area just below his balls. Another way to stimulate the rim of the cockhead is to make a tight ring with your index finger and thumb around his cock just in front of your mouth, and as you go up on each stroke, let the rim of the cockhead pass through it. Be sure your fingers are slippery though, for easier friction. You can stimulate the whole shaft by stroking it with your hand in rhythm with your sucking.

Taken from All-Purpose Queer SexGuide