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What you are about to read is true. This story is more about how things started for me so may think it is boring. But I wanted to set you up for my later adventures which get hotter. Please let me know what you think.

My first exposure to the naked body was not looking in the mirror and exploring my body but porn magazines. The very first time I looked at one I was mesmerized by what I saw. I had never seen a nude woman before and I examined every picture, not because the girls were naked but different from me. When I found magazines with couples having sex that captivated me even more. From an early age up to the beginning of Junior high school I had never hear of gays or lesbians. I had seen pictures of girl/girl sex but never men, which was fine with me because it was the female body that interested me.

It’s 1994, where my sexual revolution started. I am 25 and all I think about is girls and sex. I am addicted to sex like it was heroin and I try to find any kind of action to settle me until my next fix. The computer age is upon me and the Internet fed my addiction. Porn pics for free! Now my appetite for sex became very strong because the Internet showed me stuff I could never imagine. Bondage, golden showers, bestiality, transvestites and gay sex. When I started to look at pictures of men and gay sexual activities I remembered my first experience. The more I thought of my experience the more I wanted to try it.

I never acted on my desire until one night, being horny; I went into an adult video bookstore. Paying the clerk the entrance fee I went to the back and waited for him to buzz me in. The bookstore was a regular spot for me and I usually went very late at night and stay in my regular booth for about 30 minutes then head home. That night my booth was taken and the place was unusually full. I found another booth found and girl/girl movie sat down and started watching the movie. About 5 minutes had gone by and being aroused I pulled off my pants and started playing with myself slowly.

I was really into the movie when out of the corner of my eye I saw something. When I looked I was shocked to see a dick sticking out of the wall. I did not know how long it was there and I could not believe that it was there! Getting up to take a closer look I finally noticed the hole in the wall. I was so nervous and I could feel my heart pounding. I began to touch it and feel a dick in my hand was so nice. I decided to go for it and fulfill one of my fantasy’s, after all this time wanting to try it again I could not pass up on this opportunity.

Getting on my knees I began to lick the shaft and not put the head in my mouth yet. The dick was about 6.5″ to 7″ long and very hard. The hole was big enough so his balls were through the hole. I started to suck on his sack getting everything in my mouth. My tongue slowly caressed his sack as I kept sucking. I could tell he was enjoying it by the way he kept pushing closer through the hole. Finally deciding it was time I put his dick in my mouth and tried to go as deep as possible without gagging. I suck on him for about 3-4 minutes before he came. When I felt he was about to cum I stopped sucking and masturbated him. The feel of his cum all over my hand made me very horny. When he was done I could see him pull his pants up and leave.

I got as much cum off my hand before I pulled my pants up got out of the booth and went straight to the bathroom to wash them off. Looking in the mirror I could not believe what just happened. I really enjoyed what I did but what did that mean? Did it mean I was gay? I went home that night and ran the whole event through my head until I fell asleep.

A kiss, is just a kiss. Right? Wrong! A kiss sets the mood for your entire sexual experience with your partner. If he’s a bad kisser, you might as well put your clothes back on, go home, and jerk off.

The key to good kissing is to actively use your lips. I’ve kissed guys that didn’t use their lips at all. They would just tense up their lips and leave them like that. It felt like I was trying to kiss a statue. Relax or at least, make a mental effort to relax, your lips. Allow them to be soft and pliable. As you start to kiss, try gently brushing your partner’s cheek with them, or run them along his neck just barely making contact with his skin.

Don’t be afraid to use your breath. Nothing gets me hotter than feeling someone’s warm breath on my neck, or someone gently (and I mean gently) blowing in my ear. It always sends goose bumps down my neck, back, and arms. This type of gentle foreplay with your partner is extremely sensual, and builds up sexual tension. It can also serve to establish nonverbal communication between the two of you. His reactions to this sort of foreplay will give your first indications of his overall sexual responsiveness.

As you get into it, you’ll probably start using your tongue. Run or flick your tongue across his lips, moistening them slightly without actually kissing him. When you do finally kiss, make sure to lick your own lips from time to time to ensure their softness. It’s not very pleasant to kiss someone whose lips have the texture of sandpaper. When you use your tongue on his neck, gently run it around his earlobe and ear. If you feel like it, suck on his earlobe – but not his ear. You may want to cover his entire ear with your mouth and gently exhale. Try not to inhale while doing this, and don’t exhale too quickly because the rushing air will make him feel like he’s in a wind tunnel.

When starting to "French" kiss, open your mouth just slightly. I can’t tell you how many times I went to French someone and he opened his mouth widely sticking his tongue all the way out. I felt like I was frenching a horse. You’re trying to kiss here … not eat a Big Mac! Let your partner accept the tip of your tongue into his mouth, and vice versa. As you get more intense try sucking lightly on your partner’s tongue – be careful not to suck too hard, making him feel like you’re trying to rip his tongue from his mouth.

Try gently nibbling or sucking on your partner’s lips. Feel their texture, softness, and even their taste with your tongue. Though it’s generally subtle and easily unnoticed, the lips of different men do actually have their own unique flavor. Be a creative kisser. Always be aware of your teeth. It’s not really pleasant to be French kissing someone and feeling his teeth scrape the area around your mouth. Though teeth can effectively be used for fun. A light bite or nibble on your partner’s chin can be a display of passionate sexual aggression

When kissing someone – kiss him the same way you enjoy being kissed. Think back and remember a guy you really enjoyed kissing. How did he kiss you? What was so different about the way he kissed you? Try imitating those methods with your future partners. I’ve found that most guys kiss with their eyes closed. Ignore the impulse to close your eyes when kissing and try opening them occasionally. It adds a new perspective to the experience.

Taken from All-Purpose Queer SexGuide